Sunday, April 12, 2015

What is a boi, and why I made this blog

According to the online encyclopedia Wikipedia the term "boi" is defined as follows:

Boi (pluralbois) is a term used within LGBT and butch and femme communities to refer to a person's sexual and/or gender identities.[1][2] In lesbian communities, there is an increasing acceptance of variant gender expression, as well as allowing people to identify as a boi.[3][4][5] The term may denote a number of possibilities that are not mutually exclusive:[6]
  • A "boi" is (generally) the younger person who prefers older partners, and is the "boi" in a "daddy and boi" dating, relationship, or sexual situation, where "boy" and "boi", respectively, are used to differentiate between someone who is underage, and someone who just identifies as the younger who wants or needs someone older. In this context, "boi" can be masculine or effeminate, or anywhere along that spectrum, and some males identify as a "boi" well beyond their 20s, and especially so long as they are involved with older men. Often, though not always, a "boi" prefers the submissive role.
  • A younger person, possibly embodying stereotyped attributes towards casual sex and commitment in relationships, in contrast with the stereotype of the U-Haul lesbian. Bois may not identify as butch, regarding butches as playing a more powerful or responsible role – the "man of the house" – while a boi is still in a freer, younger phase.
  • A submissive butch in the BDSM community, or a younger butch in the butch-femme community.[7]
  • A young trans man, or a trans man who is in the earlier stages of transitioning.[7]
  • A term of endearment for butches by femmes.[7] It may also be used in the gay community to refer to a younger person – bisexual or gay – who may have effeminatecharacteristics.[7] The term can also be used by anyone who wishes to distinguish from heterosexual or heteronormative identities.[7]
Boi may also refer to someone assigned female at birth, who generally does not identify as, or only partially identifies as femininefemale, a girl, or a woman. Some bois aretranssexualtransgender, or intersex.[8] Some "bois" identify as one or more of these, but they almost always identify as lesbiansdykes, or queer. Many are also genderqueer or practice genderfuck. Bois may prefer a range of pronouns, including "he", "she", or non-binary and gender-neutral pronouns such as "they", "co", "hir", "sie", "zie", "xe", and "ey".[9] The term has found increasing usage in the larger LGBT culture.
The term was coined to refer to black LGBTQ people, especially black gay individuals, later being used to describe gender. "Boi" has found popularity in the Latino and Asian communities as well.[citation needed]
The term was also used as a variant of the spelling of boy when one could not register a username (particularly on AOL in the 90s when so many names were already registered) with the normal spelling boy as a part of the name. It was generally picked by younger gay males (commonly called twinks today)
That said, it's more than just a definition. Being a boi is about identity, fashion, and sense of self. It's not about what you are called, it's about what you are and want or need to be. I went looking, and I didn't find a place online for bois to go to find other people that talk and think and feel like they do.

I hope that Boi Around Town can be that place, and that over time the readers of this blog will use it as a resource and a network.

Note: Wikipedia was accessed April 13th, 2015.

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